REWRITING HISTORY: 'SLUT-SHAMING' WAS NEVER OKAY

Have you ever slut-shamed?
Ever picked a girl out for dressing a certain way or doing something with her body that you wouldn’t do yourself?
I sure as hell have, and I’ll be the first, and hopefully not the last,
to say that I am wholeheartedly ashamed for previously
slut-shaming other women.

By definition, a slut is a woman who has many casual sexual partners.
Synonyms include whore, tramp, hooker, hussy, and the list goes on.
So if Google says so, by “definition,” if I choose to get it on with
more than one person this week…
am I automatically equivalent to a tramp? A hussy? A skank?
How unfortunate that society doesn’t have a better perception
of this concept than Google’s definition of
who I am and what I choose to do with my body.

What others choose to do with their bodies,
how they choose to live their lives is none of our business.
“Don’t judge others just because they sin differently than you.”
Don’t.

Because the truth is,
we all have things about us that not everyone agrees with.
Some people may have their business more public than others,
but that doesn’t make anyone better or worse than anyone else.

Whether someone wants to be highly sexually active,
or not want to at all, if they’re not hurting anyone,
it shouldn’t concern you.
And it’s not healthy to judge, because all this means is that
you’re focusing on their lives rather than your own,
and having that hatred in your heart is not only
unnecessary but it’s unhealthy.

Nothing is black and white, there’s grey all over.
So to say that sex is black and white,
to categorize people and give them labels
like “slut” and “whore” when all they’re doing
is what they want to and dressing how they please is irrational.

It’s not up to us to decide what’s right and wrong because
it’s subjective, not everyone is going to agree.
Nudity empowers some while modesty empowers others.
Different things empower different people and it’s no one’s job
to define what’s better or worse.
It’s no one’s job to pick people apart and judge them
based on what they do with their bodies.

Image by Debra Cartwright

It is our job though, to support each other. If you're a woman, it is your responsibility to support other women, regardless of the choices made with our bodies.

Do as you please, because it’s your body and the faster you realize that,
the more empowered you’ll be.