IT'S NOT YOU, IT'S ME

The infamous line no one wants to hear.
Have you been there?
Been cut off by someone for a reason you’ll never know?

Or maybe, you’ve said that to someone
and broken their heart while breaking your own.

The thing is,
as unoriginal as that line is,
it couldn’t be more true.

When people hurt you,
you have to learn to understand that the problem
is almost always not you.
When people do things that you don’t necessarily agree with,
they’re not against you, they’re for themselves.

I’m not only talking about romantic relationships either.
This applies to any relationship you may have with another person.
This other person– discovering their own path,
creating their own story,
all while trying to figure out how to have that happy ending–
is just like you.

How people treat others
is a reflection of themselves.
When guys mess with you,
or that girl has
a passive aggressive comment to say,
you have to keep in mind that
it’s their problem, not yours.
There’s something in them that has made them a certain way
so it’s important to remind yourself that all you can do is control yourself
and pardon others
for whatever they’re going through
that makes them act the way they do.

People are going to hurt you, it’s inevitable.
We cannot change that fact.
What you can do, though,
is react in a way that shows your character.

If someone wants to do you wrong, let them, but be nothing but kind while they do it.

Don’t try to make them feel bad or guilty­­ at the time, they won’t.
But chances are, in the future, they’ll look back and regret doing you wrong.
Maybe they’ll even come back and try to do you right.

I’m not saying people don’t deserve second chances
because sometimes they do. 

But if someone does come back into your life
and you know they’re not worth your time anymore,
be kind and straightforward–
be honest and hit them with their own line:
Sorry but,
it’s not you, it’s me.