SHE FORGOT TO LEAVE ROOM TO LOVE HERSELF
From a general standpoint, relationships can teach us a lot about ourselves and other people.
If there's anything I've learned from myself and others,
it’s that being with someone who has no intention of staying
can make you feel more alone than ever once they leave.
Significant others at a young age are most likely temporary figures
we use to fill a void in our lives which we haven’t yet learned we can fill on our own.
“Loneliness is the human condition. Cultivate it.
The way it tunnels into you allows your soul room to grow.
Never expect to outgrow loneliness.
Never hope to find people who will understand you,
you will grow murderous with disappointment.
The best you’ll ever do is understand yourself.”
Why let yourself belong to others when you can belong to yourself and feel whole just the same, if not more?
Yes, having other people in your life helps to fill the human condition of loneliness,
but learning how to be resilient on your own allows you to never have to question who you are,
even if someone who had claimed to be by your side leaves.
You may not always be in a relationship, especially if you’re in your 20s.
Know that you will not always have a partner.
So while growing, keep in mind that no lover is guaranteed to “forever” hold your hand.
And learn how to be okay with that because otherwise,
how will you know if you’re choosing someone out of love or out of loneliness?
Until you’re comfortable with being alone and finding happiness within yourself,
it’s only going to be a tougher battle facing those times when you are and feel inevitably alone.
Don’t get me wrong, I do believe that sharing your life with someone else
can be one of the most beautiful things in the world.
I’m a hopeless romantic despite how much of a realist I try to convince myself I am.
Let’s go back to when I said you may not always be in a relationship.
You may not always be single either.
So live the single life with your head held high, so that when you are with someone else,
you’ll never lose sight of who you truly are on your own.
By all means, let someone in and let them love you.
Just don’t forget to leave room to love yourself.
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♡Sending love